Family Time and the Repo Man
Family TimeThis is a subject that none of us tough repo men like to talk about! It does need to be addressed, because neglecting your family can result in an outcome that you will not like.
We have all been there. You are sitting down to a family dinner or just about to watch your son pitch the most important game of the season and then the phone rings. The car has been spotted or one of the agents that work for you is in a pickle. Whatever it is, you are expected to drop everything and handle business. This can be quite hurtful to family and cause a lot of tension with your loved ones. I have to say, that nothing is worth losing your family over. No lender is going to break away from their daughters swim meet and go and check on an account for you! So why should you?
Repo agents have to balance work and family very carefully. I suggest that if you have something important to do with your family, that you find one of your workers to cover emergencies. In the repo business, you tend to have a mobile phone to your ear 24 hours a day. If you do not have the phone in your hand, then you most likely will have a repo order or a tow chain in your hand. If you are in the industry, you know it is true.
You have to be able to separate work time from family time. This business can lead to divorce. It can cause your children to hate the repossession business because you never have time for them. You are always on the phone talking about business. They do not want to hear you talking about the Hummer that you have to pick up, they want to have your full attention. Your family wants you to be interested in their lives too.
The repo business is a fast pace business and if you are slow, you will lose money. In order to still make money and have time for your family, I recommend that you live by some semblance of a schedule. Take an evening each week that you spend with your wife or girlfriend as a special time together. I call it a date night. When you are out with her, turn the phone off and do not discuss business. If you canít stand the thought of shutting your phone off, then leave the phone on and just set the ringer to silent. This will give you peace of mind so you know who has called you and you can get back to them later. If you do not pull the phone out every time in vibrates, then your lady will never know and she will think she is most important thing in your life!
Take Your Kids FishingSet time aside for your children. Take your kids fishing for the day. Play sports with them and take them to get a bite to eat each week. Make sure you attend your childrenís athletic events and other activities. When you do take some time off, stay focused on your children and forget the repo business for a few hours. I promise it wonít hurt!
If you are in the repo business, plan on working long hours and spending little time at home. This canít be avoided. Your family will miss you and if you are not careful, they will resent the repo business and that can strain your relationship with them. You need to have quality time with your family when you are at home. You should make them they feel most important when you take the day off to be with them. Make the most of holidays and be sure to do something to make the day unforgettable. Remember your ladiesí birthday and always be there for your kidís birthday as well. I was always guilty of forgetting birthdays and other special events and I can promise you that I paid dearly for it.
At the end of the day, we all have to keep things in perspective. Is your business important? Of course it is and so is making money. You canít live without making money. However, if you become rich and your repo business is successful and you lose your family over it, then none of blood, sweat and tears you put into the business will be worth it. Work hard, make money, but do not forget to enjoy life with your family.
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